).Seems this would not be good even after the baby is born. And yeahshe figured it out and got him out quickly after that, but he was deeply bruised and as a result had terrible jaundice, needing bili blankets through the fifth day and had muscular trauma in his neck that he needed therapy to correct for two years afterward. I cleaned the house again. After our first they were sewing me up from some tearing. I told my husband in the morning that I had been in labor most of the night (he slept through it). After being in labor all day and delivering at 9:00 at night we got almost no sleep. Here are 10 ways of dealing with an alcoholic husband: Wondering how you should be dealing with an alcoholic husband? This was compounded by the fact I went from water breaking to transition skipping the first four stages of labor ( I couldnt even talk). I tell her I need to go home. We got to the hospital at 7:30 and I was already pushy. Hours later on July 28, Emily Jacobs, a 28-year-old . She re-positioned the monitor and the needle was off both sides of the page. Finally, my Dad called the neighbors across the street to ask them to leave a note on the door of the house. Obviously if I am in labor I will not be driving myself but I am sure once we get closer to my EDD then he will slow it down. Stand with them and help them overcome it. We went anyway, and I was 5 cm dilated with double back labor. Start by selecting which of these best describes you! Mine wasnt nearly as bad as these more just funny. This post and the responses make me want to bash my head against a wall. All they could do was pace the floor in the waiting room. According to the World Health Organisation. She told him and he freaked out, made himself puke (totally tmi) and then was a paranoid mess the whole drive to the hospital. Experiencing a craving for alcohol. My FI usually has a few drinks every night too but I am not really worried about him not being able to drive to the hospital because theres tons of people around us who would be more than willing to drive me there. Glad she was there for you. It wasnt until I went into labor in the middle of the night that I realized he dropped the ball. Ive got girlfriends who pretty much just lay it all on the table. I complained to my husband at 3 am in the morning that I was experiencing a lot of sharp pain. When I was in labor with my second, I waited at home until I couldnt stand it anymore because I didnt want to be in the hospital for hours in labor like I was with my first. The nurse made eye contact w/me, raised her eyebrows, and then lead him to the monitor to explain what was what, lol. It's not good. I think I may have got lucky! You notice a mucusy discharge or "bloody show". I've tried explaining this to him, but he really thinks he deserves to unwind however he wants since he works so hard. Remember, youre not to be blamed for their habit. You really, really need to talk to him about this habit. He told the registering nurse, my room nurse, my midwife, my doula, ANYONE who had ears our WHOLE life story. The ban has since been lifted: Following an outcry from expectant parents, medical professionals, and doulas, Governor Cuomo signed an executive order on March 28 requiring all New York hospitals to allow one person to accompany someone who is pregnant through labor and delivery. When my nurse came in to reposition me I said, can you please wake my husband up his snoring is driving me nuts She did, and he said, well who can get any sleep around here with that beeping(referring to the sound of our sons internal fetal heart rate monitor) It was driving me nuts so I put the pillow over my head!. Whats worse is that his parents brought him back to the hospital drunk as a skunk. Since our house is on the way to the hospital, we stopped to get our bags. of theirs under any circumstances. All I am saying is that it will probably work itself out in the end. And often I wonder if this is healthy. She arranged transportation to the hospital from our neighbors. By talking to him about your problems, you will be able to get the support you need to overcome these challenges and move on with your life. Get weekly updates on baby and your body. When I told my husband at 2am that it was time to go to the hospital, he said, Oh, not tonight, I have a headache.. He THEN started snoring and for about 30 minutes I tried to ignore it, but was just getting increasingly more annoyed with each breath he took. Of course, I ended up delivering at 230 AM and when I asked for something to eat, the doctor told me Id have to wait until the cafeteria opened. His father had to leave the room because he felt like he was going to throw up.saying It looks like hamburger meat. Here . I aint talkin' bout chicken n' gravy biatch. Ahh, those were the days I bet he misses me. And that I hadnt eaten dinner and was starving. I thought that was all obvious to DH but apparently I was wrong. We called to tell him to come immediately. ? Silverstein had her first child in a hospital, with her husband present. -Lois, I was fully dilated after 18 hours and my husband said you think you can hold out pushing until I grab some breakfast?-Sarah, My husband grew this ridiculous goatee and wore a shirt that said TOERAG on it, so he looks ridiculous in all the photos. Those who knew Angela Dickinson said she could charm any man. He came home around 5 when my contractions were about 2 minutes apart and proceeded to watch tv and eat dinner. Speak to them when theyre sober and discuss setting a limit to it. For many women, pregnancy can be a stressful time. -Anne, When the nurses asked how bad the pain was from 1-10 and I said 10, my husband said oh, come on it cant be that bad. , Thats awesome. You willingly married and created a child with an annoying drunk and yethe's the stupid one. I didnt even realise I was annoyed about this, nor did I particularly want to be, but it just kind of snuck up on me. We women are quite wonderful really. Your water better not break on my leather seats!. In addition, you should also come up with a list of goals that you want to achieve as a couple once you are done with treatment so that you can lead a more productive and happy life together. So, accept the fact and learn to deal with it. Good grief you have issues. Some places test moms for COVID-19 at 36 to 38 weeks or before they undergo a C-section, while others don't test at all or do it when a case of the virus is suspected. For example, someone might have a problem with drinking but deny it to themselves or their loved ones to avoid admitting they have a drinking problem. Hours in labor: Never went into labor! Into the car it went. The 25-year-old Los Angeles Rams wide receiver and his wife, Samaria Jefferson, welcomed their second baby together on Sunday evening, when Samaria went into labor during the Super Bowl, which Van . And that he has a choice to make but if he wants to "risk" drinking each night then that's his problem if he isn't there. He was drinking coffee, eating breakfast and taking care of the dogs because they were going to be caged up all day. My husband told me to breathe. He thinks he's being 110% supportive, and says he will, but just drinking when I could go into labor any day is NOT supporting IMO. After They told me I wasnt going back home, I called him and relayed the info. It was his decision. As a writer at Marriage.com, she is a big believer in living consciously and encourages couples to adopt this principle in their lives too. Raspberry leaf tea is supposed to help with uterine contractions, reported Pregnancy, Birth & Beyond, though there's some contradictory evidence as to whether or not it . Around 10 am he announces that he has to go home because the Popeyes he ate has given him food poisoning. No seriously, it was my due date. After your first childbirth, labor usually takes less time. Not sure of this counts but after I had the baby I realized I forgot to pack underware so I told my husband to bring me a pair. All I can think of is - How in the world did you get pregnant? It helps release oxytocin, which is the hormone that causes your uterus to contract. that actually is true, no one under a certain age . I just looked at him and siad Seriously!?! Now, no matter how many babies you have given birth to, you still never quite remember the feeling of going into labour until it actually happens again. Call a sibling or a friend and have them be at the ready to bring you to the hospital on the off chance your husband decides to booze it up with his co-workers. Life with an alcoholic husband is tough. With our first child, he made me wait until the show Charlies Angels was done before leaving for the hospital. I was in labor (induced) for 48 hours while my husband was uncomfortable in his chair and feeling nauseous from a sandwich he ate. I guess I was just a little worn out from the AGONIZING LABOR AND DELIVERY OF YOUR CHILD THAT I JUST ENDURED YOU-F&!KING-MORON-WHO-DECIDED-TO-EAT-POPEYES!!. Check out this video to understand how to get your alcoholic spouse into treatment: Discuss the various treatment options that are available and find the best one for him so that he can get better as soon as possible. After threats, and having my parents call and force him to drive back. So I stand behind some, I never said all, of these comments are just bitchy. Jack Morley, the giant baby, was born just after 8am. Besides, alcoholic people need reasons to blame people for their condition. PCOS and Hypothyroidism- Successful IUI's- May 2012 and October 2014. I was in delivery with my second child in 12 months. Mortified. If you want to read all 237 responses (and YOU DO), click here. Little do they know. Diagnosing alcoholism can be difficult because it often goes unnoticed by family and friends. Baby. However, Phil and I are pretty much the masters of the silent fight. If you feel disconnected or frustrated about the state of your marriage but want to avoid separation and/or divorce, the marriage.com course meant for married couples is an excellent resource to help you overcome the most challenging aspects of being married. Someone who drinks 5 drinks a night to "unwind" after work and is defending that decision in the face of being incapacitated for their pregnant wife has a drinking problem. Reach out to rescue them only when they seek out help. It also happened to be the night of our annual street party. Its amazing he still had the equipment to impregnate me one more time time!!!! I spent the entire time in the hospital alone. -Carrie, After I finally agreed to an epidural, the nurse explained that it would feel like a quick little bee sting. And yes, I actually fix my hair. If you liked this post, follow Mommy Shorts on Facebook. The doc said that was waaaaay too much and really unhealthy. When the July 14, 2012 due date of Gainesville, Florida resident Melissa Hoh came and went, her husband's friends told him about a news story they'd read in 2006 about three women going into labor . He tried to Mapquest the directions while driving down the highway and almost killed us. -Katie. The only way to stop this from happening is to let your husband know that, you wont tolerate any unacceptable behavior. That's some heavy drinking. My husband took nearly two hours to have lunch with his mom at the hospital, after he had been helping me through contractions all morning. Once labor begins, it can take between 10 to 24 hours (or more) to progress through the three stages of labor before your baby is born. I wish you luckI would talk to him now about this habit! 16/12/2017 05:17. Why do I remember the date so well? E had a little trouble at first and I needed stitches, so DH stayed with us until 2am before he ran home to let our dogs out to go to the bathroom and he never did tell me if he needed to clean anything up while he was there! The. He was only slightly better with our third. Hubby was very excited and solicitous and kept asking how I was and what did I need. I find it pretty fvcked up that you are okay with him drinking a "few drinks every night" since someone else can drive you to give birth to yours and HIS own child. You might also explain that it's his baby too, he may want to remember the event. I was induced w/our first, and it took a while for things to kick in. He said okay, proceded to go hook up the horse trailer, load his horses and tell me that he was going to a branding. There was a family business. Are there any good books for hubby that explain the importance of truly supporting the wife? Prodromal labor can last all day and into the night before stopping for a few hours. "With . -Lucy, About 30 minutes after our son was born (a full 24 hours of labor) my husband told me he was going to head home for a bit because he was exhausted. Ha, I thought to myself, hell be visiting the bathroom regularly tomorrow. My hero. Look up the options available to you, enlisting help if you need backup, and have a hopeful, serious plan ready so there's no excuse for him to say no. Not all men are alcoholics, or would make these choices, so stop generalizing all men to excuse your own husband's behaviour and choices (and your own choices to stay with him). My husband and I were so excited that we jumped right into action. All parents have had to worry about this, I am sure you will be able to find someone who is willing to help you out. Only when you will make them realize that it is a problem and it puts you in an awkward position afterward. You will have to work together, as a team if you want to come out of the situation. You don't want him to not be able to function when the baby needs to be cared for during the night. To his credit, he sprung out of bed, I rang my best friend and she came to look after Maddie and Sam. Then 14 hours and a baby boy later, he called to let everyone at the office (a family business) know the good news. I know you probably came on here just to vent about your guy being insensitive to your worries, but I have to speak up when I see such specific and high quantities related to drinking. Michelle, My husband took a conference call on the way to the hospital. I get all the credit for being an awesome stepdad and none of the crap over what got screwed up during labor. Wondering how to deal with an alcoholic spouse? this is fantastic!! My son is adopted but we were able to be at the birth. With our fourth, he was perfect and even had to help deliver the baby!! Listen to Token and others who have pointed out that there is a problem beyond driving to L&D. It was one of the biggest events in . It is also important to seek professional. God bless my daughter for sleeping/ nursing her way into this world. They might have difficulties controlling their emotions and be prone to anger or violent behavior when drunk. This, I really think that you need to convey how important it is to you and the baby, then make sure that he realizes how serious you are that you NEED a coach to help get you through this and if he is to drunk to do it then you will find someone else and he will be relegated to the waiting room. Another call revealed him sitting at home, eating a sandwich, and checking on his World of Warcraft real quick. to catch during the initial few meetings, but by the time you get to know about it, it is too late. I jumped on board. Braxton hicks are most often painless or at the worst, uncomfortable. Needless to say, he was NOT happy about that statement but I don't care. It wasn't until my midwife stripped the membranes at 41 weeks that I finally went into labor." 2.) I watched a CSI marathon the entire time I was in labor. Children should be seen, and heard, and believed. Iowa City Press-Citizen via USA TODAY Network. He will NEVER live that down. I wish men weren't so stupid about some things. We didnt go to bed until midnight. These are hilarious! So, that's the fvcked up part. We were on our way to the hospital by 6:30am. Then just before we were about to leave for the hospital, he looked at me and said, are you really going with your hair looking like that? . Which is normally fine, but NOT when your in labor! Apparently i was keeeping him awake. According to the World Health Organisation, around 2% of adults globally have a drinking problem thats over one billion people! What on earth makes you think anyone wants your man? , around 2% of adults globally have a drinking problem thats over one billion people! He took one too many wrong turns and we ended up in a dodgy end of town. Of course, I couldnt, so about 9 am, I started timing my contractions and they were getting to be about 5 mins apart. This is YOUR own husband being an alcoholic. He was much better with our sons birth though even cleaned up after me when I puked in the basin I still hold that first time against him though! They might be useful in convincing him that he's got a pretty vital role and needs to be really present. When I was in labor with our son my wife was AMAZING, a true hero. 9. Sure, hopefully, the baby will change everything, but you still need to speak up to help him see the problem with this behavior and offer to support him as he works to change it. We checked into the hospital at 7am, they started pitocin by 8am, and he only stepped out of the room twice (to smoke :boo:) until 8pm when E was born. Thats when the smell of a thousand beers hit me. With our third i forgot something to wear home and baby outfits so he had to go shopping for me and lets just say men DO NOT know how to shop for women or babies!!! April 2011. I called him to come home and he suggested id feel better walking up and down the street. Oh well, possibly because it was the day before I gave birth to our 3rd child, Jack. If I was to go into labor when he was drinking he wouldn't be there and that's that. On the way there, he takes a random left turn and lets me know he needs to stop at the ATM because he has no money. of the issue and will look for a solution. It will make the recovery process much easier for you both if both of you work together towards the same goal. They would know that their behavior will only add trouble than solve any problem. -Questionable Choices in Parenting, Mine was an emergency C-section. LOL, you sound like my wifes ex. Your H has a serious drinking problem, you enable him, you are having a baby who will be left alone with this man, and all you are worried about is getting to the hospital? Jackass. It is also a good idea to spend more time with your loved ones as this will reduce your stress levels and improve your mood.